Siblings are Blessings

When my oldest, Andrew, was five and a half months old, we found out that we were pregnant with our second! I cried for a long time! I cried because I didn’t know how we were going to make it with another child, but mostly I cried because I felt like I was ruining Andrew’s life!

 

Could this be a good thing?

I felt like I was going to take his “babyhood” away. I know it may sound funny to some of you, but I was very distraught about this! Many people tried to comfort me and tell me that we were giving him a blessing, because siblings are blessings. At the time, I just brushed off the comments thinking that they didn’t really know because they didn’t have children this close together! I didn’t truly understand what they meant until eighteen months later.

 

They were right!

I remember being at the park with my sons and being very pregnant with our third. They were playing so well together and it was then that I realized that siblings truly are a blessing! I realized that although Andrew’s life did change a lot when Adam came along, I also realized that it really taught Andrew so much about life, so much about compassion, and so many other things that are vital to life. I remember sitting on the park bench, watching my beautiful boys playing so well together and I thanked God for all that he had blessed me with.

 

An Answered Prayer

I then suddenly felt very sad. I felt sad because at the time, we were not sure if our best friends were going to have another child or not and I felt sad for their son, Braden, not knowing if he would ever have this blessing! (It wasn’t long after I had this feeling that they told us they were pregnant)! So while I may get dirty looks from people because I have so many children, I think of all the blessings that my children have and thank God for every single one of them!

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About Carolynn

I am a teacher turned stay at home mom to four children. I have a passion for helping parents be better parents and strive to help make life easier for them. Join me on my journey!

6 Responses to Siblings are Blessings

  1. Jackie May 3, 2011 at 1:48 PM #

    Love this story! It is so true. I often think how different Kaitlyn & Brayden’s lives would be if we hadn’t adopted them and they were raised separately. God knows what He’s doing!!!!

    • admin May 14, 2011 at 8:42 PM #

      He sure does! :)

  2. Jessica Holmes May 14, 2011 at 8:18 PM #

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I am 29 weeks pregnant with my second and my first just turned a year old. I had many of the same feelings you had about having them so close together. I think some of my feelings are also selfish because I feel like I’m going to miss so much of my oldest’s “babyhood”! I really appreciated you sharing your story. It helps me feel a lot better about the whole situation.

  3. admin May 14, 2011 at 8:45 PM #

    I totally understand your “selfish feelings” about missing your oldest’s babyhood. I slept through the the good majority of his 6-9 months of life! I do feel guilty about that, but he doesn’t remember that time and we have a very close relationship (probably due to all the snuggling we did while I was resting)! My two oldest are now 4 & 5 and they are the best of friends! They even call each other their “best friend” sometimes!

  4. JessieLeigh May 17, 2011 at 1:13 PM #

    Oh, this post swept me right be in time! I remember seeing those two lines when my firstborn was barely six months old and crying in my husband’s arms. I was terrified that we were somehow stripping his babyhood from him. Who could have predicted that little sibling would arrive a short four months later well before he even hit 1yr??? But it’s true– they are so very close and I can’t imagine their early years without each other. Such a blessing!

    • admin March 22, 2012 at 8:05 AM #

      Wow! Glad everything has worked out so well!

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