The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted



Why Do People Marry?

“Why Won’t They Change?”

What Love Really Means

“Listen to Me!”

Who Takes Care of What?

Decisions, Decisions

“You Mean We Have to Work at Sex?”

Leaving and Honoring Parents

Love and Money



  • “People do not “make us miserable.”  We choose to be miserable.” 37
  • “It’s important to remember that your marriage can be improved even if your partner never changes.  One partner can change a marriage for the better even when the other has no desire for improvement.”  38
  • “The opposite of selfishness is love, biblical love, which is self-giving and unconditional.” 66
  • Visions of democracy dance in the minds of many young couples, but when there are only two voting members, democracy often results in deadlock.” 90
  • “The great tragedy in life is not in failing to get what you go after.  The great tragedy in life is in getting it and finding out it wasn’t worth the trouble!” 134



I really like this book and feel that I will be returning to it many times throughout my marriage.

I really liked the questions at the end of each chapter.  The chapters Who Takes Care of What and Love and Money were my favorite chapters.
When problems arise, look at yourself and try to figure out why this bothers you so much.  Again, he stresses that we choose rather or not to be happy.  Our emotions do NOT control our actions.

Chapter 5, Who Takes Care of What?, is a really good chapter, especially for engaged, newly married and couples just starting to have children.

Visit Gary Chapman‘s website.


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About Carolynn

I am a teacher turned stay at home mom to five children. I have a passion for helping parents be better parents and strive to help make life easier for them. Join me on my journey!

2 Responses to The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted

  1. Katie March 14, 2012 at 10:03 PM #

    This one sounds like a must read, thanks for sharing!!

    • admin March 15, 2012 at 1:16 PM #

      It’s really good.

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