Best Book, a MUST read for every parent!

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Chapters

The Challenge

Common Sense and Your Child

More Common Sense about Children

Questions and Answers

The Miracle Tools

Discipline in Learning

The Barriers to Learning

Discipline in Morality

A Moment for Mom

A Quick Survey of Drugs and Substance Abuse for Parents

Quotes

(since I can’t copy the entire book….)

Developing respect for parents is the critical factor in child management.  18

Disciplinary action is not an assault on parental love; it is a function of it.  Appropriate punishment is not something parents do to a beloved child; it is something done for him or her.  22

Trying to control children by screaming is as utterly futile as trying to steer a car by honking the horn.  36

… for it is through loving control that parents express personal worth to a child.  57

The best way to get children to do what you want is to spend time with them before disciplinary problems occur.  75

… one of the best methods of changing a behavior is to withhold reinforcement while rewarding its replacement.  112

Review

I really loved this book.  I will be using this to refer to, whenever I get up on my soap box.  One of the things that parents do that get me so agitated is “rescuing” their child or raising entitled children (and no, I don’t just mean with possessions, I know some very entitled children that had few toys and their parents had little money).

This book shares ways to discipline and why to discipline, talks about teenagers and when to deal with the birds and the bees.   It even touches upon strong willed children.  I wish I could take this book around and hand it to people I think could benefit.

Dr. Dobson says that parents need to parent their children so that teachers can do their job, and I can tell you first hand, that this isn’t happening in modern society.  Many parents feel it’s the teacher’s job to parent and teach.  Sometimes, parents don’t even expect that much, in fact, there are many times when parents get in the way of teachers controlling their class so that everyone can learn.

This book has made me reevaluate how we do our chore chart.  At first our chore chart worked really well.  I could tell that this gives my children a sense of responsibility and pride.  However, as we’ve gone on, we’ve become more lax and often times only give out “rewards” once a week.  According to this book, that really is too long of a time to go without a reward for little children.  So, I might try giving out tickets every night and then they can trade in their tickets twice a week or so.

I know some parents are afraid of “rewarding” their children, but we are rewarded as adults, so why not teach them how the world works now.  For instance, if you go to work and do your job, you get paid.  If you take care of your things, they stay nicer and they don’t have to be replaced, etc.

I wish I could record this book and “read” it to every parent out there.  This book should be handed out at children’s six month check up.  Please, please, please, read this book.  Let’s make this world a better place!

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Here is a You Tube video, that goes well with the morality section of this book.  Sexual Healing