[amazon_image id=”0781439124″ link=”true” target=”_blank” size=”medium” ]How to Really Love Your Child[/amazon_image]

This book is outstanding and really aligns with my beliefs on parenting and why the world is the way it is today.  This gives me even more reason to write my own book on how to specifically help parents accomplish what is discussed in this book.  This is a must read for every parent!  🙂 I am making my husband read my notes from it.  (I’d like him to read the entire book, but he hardly reads and is in school right now, but one day!)  😉

This book is short, only 139 pages.  Each chapter is around 10 pages long.  Easy to fit into your day!

Chapters

The Problem

The Setting

The Foundation

How to Show Love through Eye Contact

How to Show Love through Physical Contact

How to Show Love through Focused Attention

Appropriate and Inappropriate Love

A Child’s Anger

Discipline: What Is It?

Loving Discipline

Discipline- Requests, Commands, Rewards, and Punishment

Children with Special Problems

Helping Your Child Spiritually

Main Points

• Although most parents love their children, not all children feel they are truly loved.  14, 96
• The martial bond is a big influence on the child-parent bond.  21
• Eye contact, physical touch, and focused attention are the keys to conveying our love to our child(ren).
• Being a good parent requires lots of time, energy, and intentionality.  63
• Handling our own anger is detrimental in teaching our child(ren) how to appropriately handle theirs.  81, 82
• Love and discipline are not synonymous, but they do go hand in hand.  88

Must Read Chapters/Pages

Chapters: 4, 5, 6, 8, 9

Pages: 19, 93, 81-82, 88-89, 90-91

Quotes

“Appropriate and frequent eye and physical contact are two of the most precious gifts we can give our child. 49

“It is during times of focused attention that eye and physical contact have stronger meaning and impact upon a child’s life.” 64

“But focused attention is the most powerful means of keeping a child’s emotional tank full and investing in his future.” 67

“The first fact parents must understand in order to have a well-disciplined child is that making a child feel loved is the first and most important part of good discipline.” 88

“To give a child focused listening requires at least eye contact, with physical contact and focused attention if possible and if appropriate.  Acknowledging that you understand your child (even if you disagree with him) is usually helpful.  Repeating your child’s thoughts and feelings back to him is a good way to ensure that he understands that you understand.” 90

“The more parents use such authoritative techniques as commands, scolding, nagging, or screaming, the less effective they become.” 112

More

I think that pairing this book with

Mom by Example had a series on loving your child this week!  🙂

Other Books I Want to Read (that this book mentioned)

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